If you’re anything like me, you’re a worrier. And not just your average worrier.
A professional worrier.
But who could blame us?
There’s the past, the present, the future, not to mention the hundreds of thousands of variations of those three that feature the what if’s, the could be’s and the should have been’s.
Plus, our problems aren’t the only ones to worry about. There are our family’s problems, our friends’ problems, the problems of the person we happen to come into contact with at the grocery store, and the problems of fictional characters that make us wonder if we can relate…which spiral into a set of entirely new problems.
Worrying is great.
I mean, not really, but it disguises itself as a hobby sometimes.
And while I imagine people like us will constantly find ourselves worrying (and worrying about worrying) it’s important to remember that it’s not always necessary.
(I know, easier said than done, but hear me out.)
I recently read To Kill a Mockingbird and Atticus Finch, one of the main characters, had a signature phrase that really resonated with me. He repeated this phrase multiple times throughout the book, often to calm the worries of his children, Jem and Scout.
“It’s not time to worry yet,” he would say, and even though it wasn’t an answer, it was enough. Because as much as worrying likes to pretend it offers you a path to a solution, oftentimes it does little more than guide you towards further destruction.
Worrying adds to chaos, it doesn’t end it. It doesn’t give us control, it steals it. And as easy and fun (?) as it is to worry, it’s important to remember that it really doesn’t help.
So the next time you find yourself consumed by panic, remind yourself, it’s not time to worry yet.
When it comes to the what if’s, it’s not time to worry yet.
When it comes to the could be’s, it’s not time to worry yet.
And when it comes to the should have been’s, there’s no point in worrying now.