A Repost for My Fellow Tough Eggs

I don’t have a new post for this week. But I have recently been reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, and so this post from a few years back has been on my mind.

Re-reading it was a good reminder that being an introvert does not mean you are an incomplete extrovert. It doesn’t mean that you are less interesting or less important of a person. The world is made of both introverts and extroverts, so it is not our job to try and become something we’re not. It’s our goal to become and to appreciate exactly who we are.

Some of us are tough eggs. And that’s okay.

The world needs tough eggs.

Often when I meet someone new, or when I see someone for the first time in a long time, or sometimes for no reason at all, I feel very shy and quiet and unable to start, continue, or enjoy a conversation.

I put a lot of pressure on myself, demanding, THIS IS ON YOU, and make myself believe that whenever a conversation goes stale, or when someone opts to sit or stand with someone else, or when the stranger I meet at the supermarket doesn’t immediately fall in love with me like the movies told me they would, it’s because I’m boring or unlikeable or pathetic—or a healthy combination of all three.

Anyone else with me on this?

Anyone else wish they had that magic they see in other people? That ability to talk about anything and everything to anyone and everyone. That something that draws people to them without even meaning to. That ease.

I do.

And while I think it’s something I’ll always strive for, and as much as I believe that you can challenge yourself and grow and acclimate and learn, there comes a point when we have to realize that we are not required to be that kind of person.

We don’t have to be the person that knows exactly what to say all the time. We don’t have to talk to anyone and everyone about anything and everything. Some of us are simply tougher eggs to crack and you just have to give us a little more time.

So, to my fellow tough eggs, let me just say that I am with you. You are not alone in feeling like you should do more, be more. You are not the only one sitting there internally screaming, “SAY SOMETHING.” You are not boring or uninteresting or pathetic. You just need time. And anyone worth having in your life will give you that time. So be patient with yourself.

Be yourself.

And take these quotes from Quiet into consideration:

“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured.”

“There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.”

“The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it’s a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers — of persistence, concentration, and insight — to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply.”

You can find the original post here.


11 responses to “A Repost for My Fellow Tough Eggs”

  1. Love this. Thank you.
    I’m currently reading her new book….”Bittersweet” it talks about the power and gifts of sadness and not having to be cheerful and positive all the time… Also a wonderful read…. You might like it?

    1. That sounds great! I didn’t realize she had a new one! Thank you so much for the recommendation 🙂

  2. “Do work you love and work that matters..” so good 🙂
    Another great post and reminder that we are all enough… just the way we are.

  3. I could’ve used this book growing up, as I always thought that something was wrong with me, and have struggled to feel enough because of that.

    But if the lockdowns have taught us anything about life, it’s that everybody has a role to play in ensuring the survival of our species, such as long periods of isolation—the hermits are the ones to rise up to the occasion in those moments! Anyway, thanks for this post!

  4. Thanks, this is just the thing I always needed to hear. I grew up being called shy and backwards so I thought something was wrong with me. I’ve since learned the value of being an introvert, a deep thinker (and feeler) and I like who I am. Great post!

    1. I have taken a very similar route! But it’s good to be able to rest in who we are 🙂

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