A Blog to Help You Apologize

I get it, saying sorry is tough. Not only do you have to humble yourself and admit you were wrong, but you have to do so in front of other people. It sucks! I for one hate apologizing, because in order to provoke such an admission, I have to be in trouble, and the only thing I hate more than apologizing (besides these things) is being in trouble. As much as it sucks however, saying sorry is a necessary part of life, as we are all the occasional jerk, and sometimes need to verbalize it.

So, if you happen to be reading this blog with a heavy conscience because of something you did and know you need to apologize for but have no idea how, allow me to assist you. First, follow and read this blog, as it can provide a great place for you to escape and avoid making this horrible, awkward apology. Second, copy down the address of this blog, either on a piece of paper or in a note on your phone. Third, give that address to the person that deserves your “sorry”, and tell them to give it a read, as it’s hilarious, delightful and VERY INFORMATIVE. Fourth, watch as your “sorry” is transmitted subconsciously through this post in particular and rid yourself of all guilt.

With that being said, here are some apologies you can use this blog to make:

1) I’m sorry I pooped in your bathroom and then shut the door behind me after I flushed. I now realize my assumption that doing so would hide the smell and prevent me from destroying the delightful atmosphere of your home was completely incorrect, as it instead trapped the noxious gas inside your tiny (but well decorated) bathroom, making it a paralyzing booby trap for the next full-bladdered guest.

2) I’m sorry about that thing I said when we met those new people and I wanted them to like me. It was unkind of me to make you the butt of a joke, even if it was hilarious and true and you actually laughed pretty hard and I can’t figure out why you’re still holding it against me, even though you say you’re not but you are and I can tell.

3) I’m sorry I ate the last of your ice cream and that you won’t notice until you’ve had a bad day and need it most. It was delicious, if that helps…

4) I’m sorry I was a jerk to you for no reason. While I still don’t have an explanation as to why I was, and can’t necessarily promise that the mood won’t arise in me again unexpectedly, know that I am sorry because I felt bad about it a few seconds after, but was so determined to stay angry that instead of apologizing I decided to roll my eyes and storm away dramatically.

5) I’m sorry for all the dishes I left in the sink. Yes, they were mine, and I’m sorry for spending an extensive amount of time arguing with you about it, for concocting a conspiracy theory that they were yours, and for making that comment about you being a sociopath. I see now that I took it too far and that I am in fact just lazy.

6) I’m sorry for not telling you that you looked good in the new outfit you bought. The truth is I thought you looked amazing, too amazing, like the kind of amazing that makes me feel bad about what I just bought. Seeing you look that amazing made me feel like I was going to look like a whale in overalls, which, since whales have no legs, you can imagine would look completely ridiculous, but not as ridiculous as I would look standing next to you while you looked completely amazing in that outfit you just bought.

7) I’m sorry for flirting with the guy/girl you like. It was a moment of weakness and I’m a little lonely and oh my gosh please don’t stop being my friend or I will actually have no one.

8) I’m sorry for watching the last episode of Game of Thrones without you. It’s just that you were busy and I didn’t want to be behind everyone on social media and have something spoiled. Plus, it’s not like I spoiled anything for you, and I thought I did a pretty good job at pretending to be surprised when you watched it later.

9) I’m sorry for being a selfish jerk who never appreciates you the way I should. Oh wait, no I’m not, because this is just who I am and I’m not going to change, even though you’re holding out hope that I will. That’s right, this is an apology from that person who you know is never going to apologize for their behavior, and it is your friend who sent you here, trying to help you see that that person is in fact a selfish jerk who never appreciates you the way they should. It’s also an apology for you, from you, for putting up with that person, even though you know you deserve better.

And finally, in case you need to apologize to a complete and total stranger:

10) I’m sorry for bumping into your car while I was trying to park. I know the protocol is to leave my number and my insurance, so while I will do that as well, I just thought it would be nice to leave you the address to this blog because it is hilarious, delightful, and VERY INFORMATIVE.

Now then. If you’re someone that needed to make an apology, consider it made. Or, if you happen to be someone who was recommended this blog by a friend/stranger and have a sensed something familiar in these words, let me just say, from me and the aforementioned friend/stranger, “I’M SO SORRY.”

Leaning into FEAR

I was going through my notebook the other day and I found a quote I wrote down a while back. I mentioned it in this post almost a year ago, but it hit me hard when I saw it again and I wanted to share it.

It is from The School of Greatness podcast, episode 721.

“FEAR can be:

Fear Everything And Run,

or Face Everything And Rise.”

I’ve always been a bit of a fearer. I’m afraid of, well, most things, and I have found it very easy over the course of my life to run from those which are particularly scary.

It’s easy to run. Fun too. Running keeps you safe. It carries you away from all that can hurt you, thus ensuring that you can’t be hurt. But running is also quite tiring. It’s exhausting, really. And it gets old. Especially if you’re running in circles.

I don’t know where you are in your life, today or this week or in general, and I don’t know what kind of FEAR you are leaning into. But I want to encourage you, and me, the group of us together really, to stop running. And I don’t mean that solely in the sense that we should stop avoiding hard things or fearing good and vulnerable things. I just think we could all benefit from receiving the permission to stop moving.

We don’t always have to be doing something or achieving something or reaching and reaching and reaching. I think those things are important, and I think setting goals and working towards them is one of the most rewarding things you can do. But it’s not the only thing.

We are still important if we are sitting still. We still hold value if we aren’t setting new records and reaching new heights. We matter, no matter what.

I remember when I first heard this quote I took it as motivation to keep moving up. To rise. To be bigger and better. But I think I underestimated how far you can move forward simply by standing still. For to rise is not simply to ascend, it is also to acknowledge the steps that helped you do so. It is to face the things, good and bad, that have formed you into the person you are, and to accept them as part of your story.

I am who I am because of my story, and you are you because of yours. So let’s appreciate those stories for all that they are, and rise.

Don’t Suffer

A fun fact about me is that I’m cold—all the time.

I have two sweaters on my office chair at work and I almost never leave the house without some sort of extra layer, even in the dead of summer. My friends and family have (mostly) come to accept this—they only mock me half of the time now—and some even go out of their way to let me know when we (meaning only me) should bring a jacket to wherever we’re going.

If I were a teenager, I might try to spin this whole thing as a cute quirk. A way to get the boy to lend me his jacket because I’m just so cold teeheehee. But alas, I’m not 16, and I don’t even think it’s cute. I would love to confidently walk out the front door without wondering if I will catch hypothermia at the movies or grapple over what I should say to convince everyone to sit outside even though it’s hot and we might sweat all of our makeup off.

This past weekend a big group of my family got together at a house on the beach and the moment we pulled in I felt the ocean breeze shiver down my spine.

Shit. I thought. We just got here and I’m already cold.

I paced around a bit, trying to get my blood flowing so I didn’t have to look completely pathetic, but after a few minutes I leaned into my mom and said, “I really think I have to put my sweater on already.”

My mom nodded, nonjudgmental, then put her hand on my arm and said, “Like my yoga teacher says, ‘Don’t suffer.’”

At first I just smiled, thanking her for the words and for not, you know, pointing and laughing at me like I assume everyone should. But as I pulled on my jacket and then walked back around to the kitchen to lean back into the conversation I’d left, the real meaning of the words sunk in deep.

Don’t suffer.

It’s really simple on the surface, isn’t it? But let it sink in for a second.

Don’t suffer.

In the context of yoga, it reminds you not to stay in a pose that causes too much pain.

When you apply it to every day life—like whether or not I should be ashamed to put a sweater on at a family reunion—it acts a reminder to just let yourself be. Maybe that means saying no to party you don’t want to go to, or putting down a book you don’t have any interest in finishing, or taking a nap instead of going to the gym today, or whatever it may be.

Don’t suffer. Especially with the little things. Give yourself the freedom to be comfortable and it will give you the opportunity to thrive.

Needless to say I put the jacket it on, instantly felt better, and wouldn’t you know it, I had an amazing afternoon.

What’s the Point?

Have you ever been so caught up in the monotony of the day-to-day routines and stresses that you found yourself frustrated and exhausted and wondering what are we even doing here? Or, and not necessarily as dark as this sounds, but, what’s the point?

It’s that, is this it? feeling. Is life just alarm snoozing and work and bills and debt and general frustration?

Deep down we know it’s not. We know there’s more. We know this thing has purpose. But some days that truth is a little cloudy, and others it seems downright hidden.

But then there are days or sometimes just moments when it shines bright.

Like when you see someone do something so kind that it makes you want to cry.

Or when you see people look at each other with such unconditional love that you feel it too.

When you stay up late talking to your sister about nothing and everything at the same time.

When you watch the sunset on the beach and that warm glow makes everything slow down.

When you eat something so good it makes you (want to or actually) dance.

When you do something you never thought you could.

When you get butterflies in your stomach because someone or something is so overwhelmingly exciting.

When you tell a friend something you’re struggling with and they lift a little piece of that burden off your shoulders.

When you lose track of time laughing and then trying not to laugh and then after a while laughing just to laugh.

Among millions more.

The way I see it, life is about finding things that make it easier. Easier for you, easier for someone you love, or even easier for someone you’ve never met. It’s about finding people and places and experiences that make you take deep, purposeful breaths. And on the hard days, it’s about believing that ease exists, and working your way forward one step at a time to find it again.

Life is not meant to be easy, but it’s full of impossible ease, and you owe it to yourself to find it. So whether you’re having the best day ever or a cloudy one at best, I encourage you to seek it. Open yourself up to the good things in this life, let them give you breath and breathe breathe breathe.

10 Easy Ways to Learn Something New Every Day

If you are like me, you love learning. You love dropping fun facts and (as subtly as possible) saying look what I can do! And while 12 years of grade school might have given us somewhat of a distaste for the long winded, multiple choice kind of learning, these days it doesn’t take much for us to learn something new. Oftentimes it will just find us in the middle of an average day and that little light will go on in our heads saying, hey, I didn’t know that!

Call me a nerd but that is a rush.

I love that feeling so much that I actively try to learn something new every day—as many times a day as possible. Any little tidbit of new information I can find, I grab it and hold on tight, and then wait for the perfect opportunity to say, “did you know…” to my friends and family.

So, if you can relate to any of that, or if you’re just curious what kind of information I’m consuming on a daily basis in an attempt to turn my brain into its own Mary Poppins’ bag, here are 10 easy ways to learn something new every day:


1) Subscribe to a podcast

I went on my podcast app and counted, I am subscribed to 32 podcasts. THIRTY-TWO. Is this extreme? Am I an addict? Don’t answer that. I love all of my podcasts and I listen to (not all of) them every day. They cover just about every topic in the book, making it easy and fun to learn about a little bit of everything. Some of my favorites include: Ear Hustle, Beach Too Sandy, Water Too Wet, and Heavyweight


2) Click on the Google logo

You know how Google often has those decorative versions of their logo on their homepage? Did you know that if you click on those you can learn about the historical icon or event they are honoring? Talk about easy access to fun facts.


3) Subscribe to an e-newsletter

There is so much information on the Internet, both good and bad, so it’s nice to have someone else wade through it and give you the highlights. I’ve bounced around between newsletters, trying to find one that best fits what I’m looking for and right now my favorite is Next Draft. An email is sent every weekday after lunch and it is organized into ten bullet points of both important current information and interesting articles you might not have read otherwise.


4) Watch a documentary (on Netflix, Hulu, or even YouTube)

I know, I know, we all have good intentions when we scroll through and add documentaries to our queues, and we all promise to watch them next time because we’re just not in the mood right now. But I encourage you to take a chance on one when you’re looking for something to watch. There is so much good stuff out there! Some of my favorites include: Evil Genius on Netflix, Three Identical Strangers on Hulu, and You’re Not Allowed to Die Here on YouTube.


5) Go outside

I know this sounds obvious, but there’s no denying it. Our houses and apartments and dorms are wonderful and cozy and safe but there is so much to see and learn when we get outside! Just the other day a group of friends and I walked out to look at the moon and someone held their hand up and said, “did you know that if you can cup the moon in your right hand it’s a waxing moon and if you can cup it with your left it’s a waning moon.” No, I did not know that. But will I now drop it in any conversation about the moon? You’re damn right I will.


6) Look up a new recipe

One of my favorite things to do is cook, and I love looking up recipes that I can put together with things I find in my fridge. Lucky for us, the Internet is CHOCK-FULL of recipes thanks to all of the wonderful food bloggers of the world. From breakfasts to desserts to gluten free tea party recipes, there is something for every occasion, just waiting for you to dive in.


7) Download a language learning app

Learning a new language, or at the very least becoming familiar with key words in another language can be so valuable, both in every day life and when you travel. There are tons of apps out there that can teach you practically any language you can think of. My favorite is Duolingo, because it’s free, easy, and fun to use. Plus, an adorable owl named Duo sends me cute reminders to do my daily Spanish homework and it excites me.


8) Take a different way home

If you do a lot of driving for work, either as part of your job or just in commuting to and from, try a new route. Turn one street early, or get off on a different exit. Expand that mental map and see where different roads lead, you never know what you’ll find along the way!


9) Ask questions

Whenever you think to yourself, “I wonder how…” or “what is that?” or “when was..” pursue those answers. I can’t tell you how often I ask a question out loud and then immediately Google it. Even if they are little, seemingly meaningless answers they are something and you never know when you might need that something in the future.


10) Listen

This doesn’t just call for putting on your listening ears, as my mom would say. This calls for using all of your senses. Put your phone down. Pick your head up. Look around, listen up and interact with the environment around you.